Lillian Part 2: The Fix Up

Fresh off my flight and back into work. I open my email to find an email from the lovely Velma. Her emails are in Red, my responses are in Blue, my commentary is in Black. I am in the back end of my 20’s and yes, we still play stupid games reminiscent of our high school years. The game begins with this simple email. See how I play it. Would you have done it any differently? This is an actual email correspondence. Her initial email follows:

Hey Guy!

How's it going? How was your flight back? How’s your “friend?”
Well I just wanted to know how you were doing and to let you know I had a nice talk with you on the plane and I hope we will get to talk more. If you’re flying next month, I fly the 14th and the 20th of August. So maybe I'll see you.

One other thing, you know I am a Flight Attendant I have a lot of Flight Attendant friends (hot ones too) if you ever want to meet them we usually go out on weekends and we never really know where to go, but you seem to know about a lot of places. When we plan to go out one of these days I'll let you know if you want to join us.
Talk to you soon,

Velma

I seen this before. I knew what she was up to. I had a secret admirer, and she was going to play match maker. I respond:

Hey girl,
Ah, it’s going well now that I am back to work. The flight back was restful, but not nearly as fun as the flight there. You make a great travel partner and if I fly, I will certainly go on one of your flights. My “friend” is cool, I got to crash at her place during this awful black out, but no lines were ever crossed, just intense cuddling. I suppose that will have to do for now.
So you got hot flight attendant friends do ya? Well I certainly wouldn’t be averse to hanging out with some of these lovelies you speak of. Well considering I don’t really know most of them, let alone who is single, meeting any one of them would be cool. Please do keep me in mind the next time you guys all hang out. I’ll need your help though; I am no good at telling when a chick digs me.

Jesus, reading this back I see just how stupid I sound, but remember it’s all a game.

I can talk to her and she can be throwing signals and I would never know because I just don’t assume they do.

How unassuming of me.

It’s very rare that I can pick up on it. When you told me Tanya thought I was cute (which by the way I’m curious as to how you found out), even though she’s not really my type, I found it kind of shocking.

Tanya is a flight attendant that most find very attractive and she has this heir of arrogance about her. Like I said, she’s not my type, but I dig the fact that she digs me, simply because so many of my co-workers are in love with her, and I get to dismiss her. Power trip… I know.

I would never have guessed. So with your help… who knows? So yeah, put me on the invite list and let’s hang. Besides that though, if you are ever in town and feel like grabbing a bite or just layin low and chillin at some spot, call me, I always got something going on and I’m sure you would dig it. You’re cool people.

-This Guy

It’s her move. I told her I was interested in checking out these flight attendants. I set it up so that she has to outright tell me who digs me because I am too “stupid” to figure it out, and I have her as a buffer between me and any potential flying monstrosities.
She responds:

Hey Guy,
So you haven't made a move on your “friend?” You’re in a bed with a girl you have feelings for, and nothing? Not even kissing? Isn't that hard for you? Not that everything is about… you know. But not even kissing?? hmm..thats kind of hard to believe I guess. well good luck on that.

That made me think a little bit more about it…but whatever, not important right now.

My F/A friends are in fact single and very attractive. I know you met Lillian the Dominican F/A what did you think about her? She's single you know. She's very spunky and a little crazy. she'll keep you on your toes. Then there is Olivia she is Korean and Italian she's hot but she's 21. - You can check them out on my space. Search for Lillian Daiz and you will see some pics of us. In her home page, in Lillian’s friend section you will see Olivia. Tell me what you think and I'll work my magic.

Tanya asked me if I knew you because you looked familiar and she just said you were cute. And she is right you are attractive and to top it off your smart that's a very good combination. So I'm pretty sure you'll meet some nice F/A's I'll make sure of that. Hey are you going to the picnic? That's a perfect opportunity to work your charm..

We had a company picnic coming up, a lot of F/A’s were going to be there, somehow the idea made me uncomfortable.

I hope I'll see you on one of my flights and hopefully you'll stay longer so we can hang out.
Do you dance? I haven't danced in god knows how long any thing cool places this weekend I can bring Olivia she really wants to go to a Salsa club any recommendation?

Well I'm glad I'm good peoples (here) But deff. I would love to talk to you more and hang out I feel I can tell you allot.

-Velma

Alright, so she gassed my ego. Now I know that Lillian, Olivia, and Tanya as well as Velma herself think I am cute. I know that Lillian and Olivia dig me and that’s where my chances lie. She was building me up and making me feel like a king and of course, my ego enjoyed every second of it. Unfortunately this would be my unraveling and you will understand why a bit later. I had to play it cool. I had to play up to my part. I respond:

No, I never made a move on my “friend.” I know, I know, it is hard to be in a bed with a chick that you dig, and you do nothing. I mean the closest we got to doing anything was the night we got drunk on absinthe and fell asleep together, she kissed my neck a few times and it was really sensual, but nothing happened.

I remember Lillian from a little while back in a hotel room party with entirely too much estrogen. 3 girls and me. They had me blushing every 2 minutes. They were a fun bunch of girls though. Olivia is also very pretty, but I would imagine that I’d have a lot less in common with her because of her age. Either way. Feel free to work your magic, I’m always open to meeting new hotties, even if just to hang out and share some laughs with.

This Guy life discovery # 251: hanging out with pretty girls attracts other pretty girls for some reason.

Attractive and smart huh? I don’t think I’m unattractive, however I still find it surprising when girls like you and Tanya say I am. As for smart? I can dig that. I suppose you can’t really be a dummy and do what I do. I think I am going to the picnic, you going? I’ll be counting on you to help me out. Charm… heh. Ok.

Inflating her ego and using myself as the mechanism to do so. Brilliant. I don’t think it gets more self centered than that. It’s my way or reciprocating.

Do I dance? The answer is yes definitely. Let me know what you guys decide to do. This weekend might be hectic, but who knows.

-this guy

Alright, it looks like we are zero’ing in on Lillian. This is going well. She responds:

So what do you think about Lillian? She is very cute, don't you think? I think you guys would have alot to talk about. What exactly are you looking for? Tell me more. There are about 70 F/A's and not including the new "hot" class.

Well I'll see what these girls want to do this weekend. Most of them are flying for a charter and others will be working,but Olivia and her cousin (which by the way is gorgeous, she's in F/A training) might go out so I'll see whatsup.

-Velma ;o)

Ok, so she is clearly playing match maker. She put Lillian out there, now she wants to find out what I think of her before she hooks us up. I take the bait.

Lillian is really cute, but I’m never quick to judge. I just don’t know her. We all hung out, we all made jokes, it was a good time, but who knows, I get a hard read on her. I’m not sure what exactly I’m looking for. To be honest, I’m really laid back now. I used to always approach every chick like she could potentially be the next one, but that’s just not the way to do it. It’s too stressful, too much pressure. I don’t like to try to lead a relationship into what I want it to be, I’m more about letting it become what I will. In some cases it’s a friendship, in some it’s more than friends, and in other cases it can sneak up on you and become the next love of your life. So I know it doesn’t really answer your question, but I guess, what I’m looking for is someone I can kick it with and see where it goes from there. Although while I’m looking for that I could really use some booty right now. It’s been too long. Sadly… too long.

Oh shut up, don’t judge me. I can say what I want to say. In my opinion, and we all have a right to an opinion, I feel it has been too long. Go jump in a lake.

-This Guy

Ok, so in theory, the match should be made. I found out Lillian digs me, she should have found out that I dig her, next move should be a love connection. Velma responds:

Lillian's number is 718-555-9128 (sorry can’t give you the real number)

So call her up and see what goes from there!! Trust me.

-Velma

And there you have it. The game. It’s all so high school, yet we still play it. I know it too well and I figured this would be the outcome. That’s why I set up a bazillion back doors for myself just in case I meet her and find her annoying or intolerable. I never defined what I am looking for and I never promised I’d be boyfriend of the year. All I can guarantee is that I’ll meet her and if all is cool, we can “kick it” which is a buzz word that means nothing, promises nothing, and adheres to nothing. I’m a bit jaded I suppose. I got her number. It’s time to call. Lillian is very cute and she is latina. One dish I’ve yet to try. This is ground breaking for me.

Check back soon for the Lillian dates. If you remember my first few dates, then you’ll want to read this one. Things aren’t always what they seem and I get to find out exactly how. There is trouble on the horizon…mind numbing trouble. Stay tuned.